JULY 11, 1993 LINCOLN JOURNAL-STAR LIFESTYLE I 13J sandwich shop Former guard's sandwich shop doubles as prison museum BY RON WORD Associated Press STARKE, Fla. While munching on a sandwich, visitors can read the death warrants of serial killer Ted Bundy or examine the T-shirt that killer-poet Willie Darden wore prior to his execution in the electric chair. From the horrific to the whimsical, Carla's Sandwich Shoppe and prison museum has it all. The sandwich shop, just down the road from Florida's electric chair, contains a collection of prison contraband gathered by owner Carla a Hawthorne, a feisty blonde who talks at the speed of light and greets visitors with bear hugs and tales of life behind the walls of Florida's toughest prisons, where she worked for 12 years as a corrections officer. "You need 25 hugs a day," she said, wrapping her arms around those who enter her restaurant.
"Now you need only 24 more." Her collection constantly grows. Some items just appeared on the doorstep overnight, including a model of "Old Sparky," the state's electric chair, which found its way to her store shortly after Bundy's execution on Jan. 24, 1989. The items, many collected by Hawthorne herself and others on loan from the Department of Corrections, may eventually find a home as a museum in a separate building on the sandwich shop grounds. Now they fill I WEDDINGS Gosch-White every nook and cranny of the lobby of the sandwich shop.
She has stories about most of the items, ranging from crude shanks to hidden blades to the T-shirts reading "Tuesday is sold outside Florida State Prison during the carnival atmosphere surrounding Bundy's execution. Hawthorne's shop is just a mile from the pale green walls of Florida State Prison, where the state's electrie chair is located, and about two miles from Union Correctional Institution, another maximum security prison. New River Correctional Institution sits across the road. Many of her customers are off-duty correctional officers and prison workers or workers from the surrounding strawberry and chicken farms. "Her personality exudes throughout the establishment," says Bob Macmaster, a Department of Corrections spokesman who sometimes pops in for a quick sandwich and an iced tea.
"She likes to have a lot of fun. She's an attraction." The motto hanging on the restaurant wall, "Come in as a stranger. Leave family," applies to everyone except bureaucrats and what she calls the four B's women from a nearby church whom she blames for a steady stream of inspectors to her restaurant, pool hall, bar, liquor store and prison museum. Hawthorne jokes and cajoles with everyone entering her establishment. Gutz-Kohler No one forgets their visits to Carla's, a kind of down ome version of television's "Cheers." Polaroid pictures of customers cover the ceiling.
Sitting in front of her cash register is a moonshine still that officials confiscated from a nearby Florida prison. She has an extensive collection of shanks knives made from almost every item from spoons to wood to toothbrushes. There also is a large number of guns taken from inmates. "If they find something, they will make a weapon out of it," she said. "It is often for self-defense from other inmates." There's also a hat Hawthorne took from an inmate.
It was made out of 10 rolls of tightly wound toilet paper. "I got written up for that one," she said. On a large board, pictures of an Estonian prison delegation are mounted. On a visit to Florida prisons, they found themselves confronted with Hawthorne. She has a scarf and Estonian lace given to her by the visitors.
She also has a large collection of unusual items, such as ink pens, that contain razor-sharp blades; an altered Thermos bottle used to smuggle lingerie into the prison; an altered Vienna sausage can used to smuggle marijuana; and a Tootsie Roll that once contained contraband cocaine. She also has a 55-year-old heavy metal device called a "widowmaker" that inmates at the Rock at UCI used Kristin Kathaleen Gutz and Christian Adolf Kohler of Denver were married Saturday at First Lutheran Church. Their parents are Dr. and Mrs. Dennis P.
Gutz and Mr. and Mrs. Adi W. Kohler of Kamuela, Hawaii. Attendants: Elizabeth Jessen of Overland Park, matron of honor; Ulrike Johnson of Waikaloa, Hawaii, Stephanie Frazier of Denver, Jennifer, Suzanne Gutz, bridesmaids; Allison Tisthamer of Cherokee, Iowa, Austin Wilson of Denver, junior attendants; James Elliott of Denver, best man; Robert Johnson of Waikaloa, David Shields of Calgary, Alberta, Canada, William Pratt of Kailua, Hawaii, Rod Summers of Denver, groomsmen; Craig Jessen of Overland Park, Craig Dillon, Peter Sartori, Paul Best, ushers.
The couple will honeymoon in the Caribbean and live in Lincoln. Moore-Winsor First Presbyterian Church was the setting for the June 26 wedding of Deborah Anne Moore and William E. Winsor II. Her parents are William and Pauline Moore of China Grove, N.C., and his aunt and guardian is Janell Winsor. Attendants: Cindy Williams, matron of honor; Beth Winsor of Keota, Iowa, Melanie Hobbs of South Sioux City, Katie Wilken, bridesmaids; Robert Winsor of Keota, best man; Chris Waddle of Columbus, Paul Williams, Rich Crawford, groomsmen; Dwayne Moore of South Sioux City, James Darling of Mobile, ushers.
The couple honeymooned in Omaha and live in Lincoln. AP NEWSFEATURES Carla Hawthorne, owner of Carla's Sandwich Shoppe and Prison Museum, displays a hand-fashioned gun confiscated from a Florida state prison. Her collection constantly grows. to castrate sex offenders many years guards in Florida, Hawthorne worked from inmates, she said. ago.
behind the walls of nearby prisons for "Convicts have a code of ethics, a dozen years, often working an eve- "The officers hated me. The intoo," she said. ning shift. mates hated me. The officer's wives Macmaster also said Hawthorne's hated me.
The inmate's wives hated working for 12 years as "Anything that officer makes it easy happen on the 4 with her customers. shift," she said. the first five women She earned the Annette Kay Erhardt of Monterey, and Capt. Charles Heitzman Allen of Fort Ord, were married Friday at the Naval Postgraduate School in Monterey. Their parents are Mr.
and Mrs. Frederick E. Allen of Auburn and the late Mr. and Mrs. David W.
Erhardt. Attendants: Serena Sanker of Fort Collins, maid of honor; Terri Walts of Fort Collins, Yvette Oblander of Fort Irwin, bridesmaids; Fred Allen of Auburn, best man; Jay Hamill of Anaheim, Rich Sula of Olathe, groomsmen; Capts. Floyd Carlson, Brent Borden, both of Fort Ord, Keith Detwiler of Monterey, ushers. The couple will honeymoon in Puerta Vallarta, Mexico, and live in Fort Lewis, Wash. Nachtigal-Widder background of corrections for her to talk As one of Erhardt-Allen Evangelical Free Church in Aurora was the the Saturday wedding of Lisa Leigh Nachtigal David Widder of Blaine, Minn.
Their parents Mrs. Willis Nachtigal of Aurora and Mr. and Widder of Sheboygan, Wis. Attendants: Lori Dick of Munich, N.D., honor; Julie Palmer of Springview, Jolene bridesmaids; Jaci Dick of Munich, flower Dick of Munich, Tyler Nachtigal, ring bearers; der of South Bend, best man; Carl Middlesex, N.Y., Stuart Ogden of Morton, Robb Nachtigal of Aurora, Bryan Dick of Nachtigal, ushers. The couple will live in Blaine.
Timeout punishment loses effectiveness After reading an article on discipline in a parenting magazine, I began using timeout with my 6-yearold son, who was either ignoring me when I told him to do something, or arguing, or both. The author of the article said timeout was the most effective disciplinary technique with all ages of children, including teens. At first, my son did a lot of testing, but when he found out I was determined to be consistent, his behavior began to improve. Within a couple weeks, I was only putting him in timeout once or twice a day, if that. After six weeks of steady improvement, however, his behavior took a turn for the worse.
I remained consistent, but his behavior slid quickly back to square one. As I write this letter, his behavior is worse than ever, but he no longer seems to care whether he goes to timeout or not. What happened? Your experience is consistent with my own, which has led me to conclude that in and of itself, timeout has little, if any, long-term effect on at First Alyssa Gosch and Jeffrey White were married Saturday United Methodist Church in Kearney. Their parents are Gene and Kathy Gosch of Kearney and Gary and Dixie White of Grand Island. Attendants: Rebecca Harr, maid of honor; Catherine Fletcher of Omaha, Amy Kempf of Kearney, Tanji Gosch of Tacoma, bridesmaids; Emily Dohlman of Norfolk, Meghan White of Hutchinson, flower girls; Brett Scoroborough of Lenexa, Andrew Wrenn of Omaha, ring bearers; Jason White of Grand Island, best man; Chris Beswich of Tempe, Phil Gosch of New York, Andy Mittan, groomsmen; Scott White of Fallbrook, Scott Whitefoot of Hutchinson, Andy Moedy of Westlake, Ohio, Kris Sonderup, ushers.
The couple will live in Lincoln. Glassco*ck-Falk Faith Lutheran Church was the setting for the wedding of Tracy Glassco*ck and Neil Falk. Their are John and Penny Glassco*ck, Nick and Cynthia Kathy and Ken Watson. Attendants: Julie Hessling, matron of honor; Johnson, Tammi Pickett, Leigh Lade, bridesmaids; Hansen, best man; Lance Elliott, Justin Handa, Falk, groomsmen; Gary Falk of Shenandoah, Shawn Glassco*ck, ushers. The couple will honeymoon at Two Rivers State and surrounding areas.
Saturday parents Falk, Jennifer Chris Tony Iowa, Park JOHN ROSEMOND Family the highly oppositional child. With a child who misbehaves only occasionally, sitting in the bathroom or an out-of-the way chair for a few minutes serves as a generally effective reminder of the' rules and the parent's authority. As was the case with your son, however, the difficult, disobedient child is likely to "immunize" to timeout rather quickly. It may, at first, up end the child, resulting in temporary improvement. In short order, however, it becomes no big deal.
The child becomes willing to pay the relatively insignificant price of a few minutes in a chair in order to continue dominating the center of attention in the family. In and of itself, timeout is a fairly weak response to misbehavior. The more pronounced misbehavior, the weaker it is, by comparison. Highly oppositional children require powerful (not painful, consequences. Nothing less will secure and keep their attention.
Professionals are often reluctant to recommend powerful consequences because they cause children distress, thus (supposedly) lowering self-esteem. Ah, but unless the child's misbehavior results in more distress for the child than for the parent, the child has no reason to change his behavior. It's time you stopped fooling around and made a powerful statement to your child concerning his disobedience. Hang three rectangles of construction paper on a hook in the Reader is in a snit over the poor fit of and off- clothes Dear Ann Landers: Did you know that half the men in America who buy clothes off the rack are wearing the wrong size? I have a 35-inch waist and must choose trousers that are either a tight 34 or a baggy 36. Leg length is a lottery.
When I order two pairs of pants, same length, different colors, one is too short, and the other is too long. In desperation, I ordered trousers from a specialty mail-order firm in New Jersey because they offered exact sizes. When the pants arrived, the waist was perfect, but the leg length, measured with a tape from the crotch, was an inch off on both pairs. And that's not all. The back pockets were so shallow, my wallet stuck out the top.
Socks are a problem, too. One fits-all doesn't fit anybody, I had to snip the elastic tops of the last pair I bought to prevent the circulation from being cut off above my ankles. Ann, I'm in public life, but I can't afford tailor-made clothing. These problems have kept my wardrobe so limited that my wife says she is embarrassed to be seen with me. Any suggestions? R.B., Randolph, Vt.
Dear R.B.: My first suggestion is toss out the catalogs and give up on PISTOL TEAM SOUK LOAD BEFORE YOURTO FAST happens is going to me," she (p.m.) to midnight Now, or a hot title "Ms. Gestapo" "Carla" said. those who stop for a cool beer sandwich simply call her or "Mom." coln. Kivett-Rathje Ryba-Kimminau Jodi Ryba and Gary Kimminau were married July 2 at St. Anthony's Church in Columbus.
Their parents are Clarence and Dolores Kimminau of Lawrence, Janette Ryba of Columbus and the late Thomas Ryba. Attendants: Joan Braun, maid of honor; Kris Thomas of Grand Island, Kathy Kimminau of Lawrence, Tara Watzhorn of Columbus, Andi Hattan, bridesmaids; Nicole Conyers of Columbus, flower girl; Sheldon Mausbach, ring bearer; Alan Beyke, best man; Cory Menear of Omaha, Michael Pavelka of Glenvil, Scott Cleveland, Dan Reinoehl, groomsmen; Keith Watzhorn of Columbus, Lynn Kimminau of Lawrence, Jay Sharp of Blue Hill, Ken Mausbach, ushers. After a honeymoon in Colorado, the couple live in Lin- setting for and Brent are Mr. and Mrs. Alan matron of Nachtigal, girl; Kellen Steve WidSchwartz Jr.
of groomsmen; Munich, Rick Christ United Methodist Church was the setting for the Saturday wedding of Teresa Kivett and Shane Rathje. Their parents are Delmer Rathje of Shelby, Sharon Unkel of Columbus, Jan Drbal and Ron Kivett. Attendants: Chananne Hansen, maid of honor; Jessie Kivett, Tammy Ott, Cheri Looby, Dee Whitesell, Lisa Hopwood, bridesmaids; Rory Rathje of Grand Island, best man; Roger Rathje of Surprise, Rodney Hopwood, Todd Hiemer, both of Shelby, Roger Hopwood, Tony Shaefers, groomsmen; Brian Young of Yuma, John Davis, Jason Kivett, Mike Becker, Scott Sanders, ushers. The couple will live in Lincoln. kitchen.
Call them "tickets." Every time your son responds disobediently to an instruction, put him in timeout for five minutes and remove a ticket from the hook. If he disobeys outside the home, remove a ticket when you get home. When the third ticket is taken, confine him to his room for the remainder of the day (yes, even if it's 9 0'- clock in the morning!) and put him to bed one hour early. If he loses his last ticket within an hour of his normal bedtime, put him immediately to bed. He may come out of his room to go to the bathroom, eat meals with the family and run errands with you.
The first two tickets, by the way, are his "margin of error" without which you create a "no-win" situation, thus making things worse instead of better. Now you're making a powerful statement! Now he'll pay attention, and not just for a few weeks, I'll venture. 1993 John Rosemond This newspaper uses recycled paper and it can be recycled again. See Section 123 in classifieds for drop-off sites. local Babu Steps A guido for new parents Did you know that over 4,000 babies were born in Lincoln 1n 1992? Baby Steps, a new publication from the Lincoln Joumal-Star, will target new parents and parents -to-be with helpful tips and ideas in caring To advertise in this for newboms, special publication, infants and call our advertising department at toddlers.
473-7450. Lincoln Journal- Star ANN LANDERS Columnist being a mail-order Beau Brummell. Go to a men's apparel store and pick out a couple of suits of conservative color (navy blue and charcoal gray). If they don't fit properly, opt for the ones that are a little too big rather than too small. Most men's clothing stores do alterations, or you can go to a local tailor.
Some dry cleaners do alterations as well. This should solve your problem. Dear Ann Landers: Last year, my husband went to a nudist camp with his brother and had the time of his life. He's been nagging the daylights out of me to go with him for a week in August. I have absolutely no interest in going to a nudist camp.
I've told him he can go if he wants to, but that's not good enough for him. He says if I really loved him I'd go 1 to "make him happy." How about it? X.L. Dear X.L.: Your blessings should make him happy enough. I was about to say, "Pack his bag, and send him off," but all he will need is a shaving kit. Gem of the Day: Remember when you find yourself arguing, with a fool that he is doing the thing.
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